Friday, December 4, 2009

What matters in life...a no brainer

As 2009 winds down, I look back on what without question was the most difficult and challenging year of my life.

Losing my job, and being on unemployment for nearly 10 months.

Losing my townhouse, and having to scramble to find a place to shelter my sons and continue to feed them.

Losing what I thought was a solid relationship, and in the process learning so much more about people and what to look for in the people I allow in my life.

But the old saying has never been more true for me than before, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

As I look forward to 2010, I look forward to a major career shift, one that will allow me to use my skills in a new way, and one that rather than always facing catastrophe when the economy gets shaky, will allow for growth.

I also have streamlined and simplified my life in a way that has really gotten me back to the basics, like many Americans still need to learn. My sons have learned that "things" are not what is important, but people...and that when they get some special things, they appreciate them even more.

And, most importantly, I have learned that the true friends in my life are there no matter what my job title is, no matter how much is in my bank account. Really the true friends are there no matter what, period.

And you know who you are. You have stood by me and let me vent out my frustrations, or helped me move on a moment's notice, or helped me find some part time work to help pay the bills. You've given me reasons to laugh and smile, and thanked me when I helped you laugh or smile. To each and everyone of you, I can't say thank you enough for being a true friend, and for all you did.

As 2010 approaches, I have re-learned such a simple, but true lesson - you cannot measure a person by their wealth in dollars, but you can measure a person in their wealth of friends and family. And I am the richest mofo I know in that regard.

Happy Holidays to everyone, and may 2010 be an amazing year of self-discovery and growth for all of you!


~Trish~ said...

As always, very good post...and you are welcome :) (assuming some of that was for me LOL)

Life Under Construction said...

Of course it was Trish. :)

Anonymous said...

Well done - glad to have you as a good friend too. I think we're all downsizing our lives and simplifying things and expenses, whether or not we have a job.

Life Under Construction said...

Thanks, Anonymous.

Anonymous said...

Well said! May you flourish in 2010!! B

Life Under Construction said...

Thanks B - You too!

Anonymous said...

That was an amazing post and very inspirational!! I feel so blessed to have you as one of my best friends! Love you!!!


Randee said...

What a great perspective...I am looking for mine (perspective that is). I have decided that although I am still dealing with a lot of fall-out and continue to find ways in which I got screwed (for lack of a better word)...however, would MUCH rather being doing this, that still in the crap situation i was in that this lead to. (did that make sense at ALL?!!) Wishing you and yours a wonderful 2010 (and 11 and get the picture!)

Randee said...

PS....keep posting entries, whether good or bad, funny or serious, it is always fun to "visit" my fellow frozen tundra-ian!